Move close to your psychological problems

Dear Friends,

You are suffocating yourself, with never ending desire to change what is happening in the present or with your faulty desire to become somebody(to be free, peaceful, intelligent, rich, popular, famous, powerful). I think we can do this, stop becoming somebody(correcting the present) psychologically and observe. If there is happiness you can go for this way of living, otherwise you can always fall back to your everlasting struggle and effort to become somebody. So can you end your desire to become somebody without any anxiety for what happens next? 

You see even in the absence of not becoming anything, there is hard work, and organic growth in day to day life. That hard work is out of passion. Happiness is NOT end result, rather you work hard being happy in the present. Common good, inclusive growth are part of that hard work. Hope you haven't missed the point that there is no sacrifice here, only sharing and being joyful together.

What helps in understanding something, moving close to it or escape from it? If you say moving close, are you doing that? Be alone, and move close to your mind observe how thought is creating immense disorder, suffering inside the skull, as well as in the outer world. How it divides, isolates you from the rest of the world through it's never ending movement. Is moving close possible, if there is judgement as good and bad thought? Is moving close possible if you don't love thought? I wish abundant energy for all of us to move close, until the mind as unnecessary thought process dies in us.

The enemy(The chattering of the mind) is within

The whole purpose of education

Best book on education:  Education-and-the-Significance-of-life
List of schools by K     :  https://jkrishnamurti.org/schools

The whole purpose of education, or the function of a teacher or parent is to show a child the dangers involved in psychological dependency. In the tender age, we may instruct them. I think we must be serious, if we really love our children. What I mean by seriousness, is constantly we must learn together along with the child. Suppose we are trying to teach a child about good and bad behavior, first we must observe our own life and see can we change in few things where change is required. In that way we will be clear about what really involves, to bring change in oneself. For example, the man who wants recognition for his change, is not really changed. You saw something wrong, which is damaging your life and you changed, so the change must be for it's own sake, not to impress others.

The words of a man who is leading a orderly life are much more affective, than a person who merely talks for his own pleasure. So before teaching your child about inward strength and happiness, can you lead such a life. The psychological dependency, when life throws problems at us is real cause of sorrow. If you love your child, try to understand how to face problems of life without any outward dependency. There is great beauty, when you don't depend psychologically. You may depend on a carpenter that is different, we are talking about psychological dependency. In some situations you may ask for help from your friend that is not dependency, but if you are suffering or feeling happy based on your friend's denial or acceptance then it is dependency.

In our day to day life, we are struck in psychological dependency. We depend on gurus, leaders, analysts, whom we think wise, sacred books, ideologies, astrology, rituals, theories to tell us what is correct and what is wrong in life. If we go little deeper, our own conclusions, opinions, beliefs, knowledge about life is also a bondage. This dependency on outside authority to understand our own life which is in our hands, is the most miserable thing. This dependency is the root of all corruption. You are not dependent, doesn't mean that you are arrogant, rather you are just a light to yourself. Only a man who is free from the crutches of dependency, can really love another human being.

Moment to moment learning out of sensitive observation is required, to not to depend on outside authority. In this kind of learning, there is no accumulation of knowledge about life. The accumulation in the form of opinions,  beliefs, tradition is what constructs ego. Ego invites suffering into life.

Instead of telling your child what is correct or what to think, the negative approach works perfectly. For example earlier we have seen, changing ourselves to impress others is not a change. So by negating what is not correct, we come to the positive. Where as if we start positive(by making rules), we may end up negative. To find out what is love, the only approach is to see what it is not. In this negative approach, you stumble upon something unknown. If you have an idea of what is love, and you try to inquire, it is no more inquiry at all.

Slowly the child must crack the different complexities of life like fear, loneliness, running after pleasure, depression, relationship, love, time, death and come out of them victoriously. Once this ground is set, the child can approach education or any other issue in life with a sense of freedom. Only in freedom the child can make relationship with people or subjects that they have to pass. Once this relationship out of love established, struggle and effort are not required.

Best book on education:  Education-and-the-Significance-of-life by Jiddu Krishnamurti
List of schools by K     :  https://jkrishnamurti.org/schools

Beyond thought

It(Truth, timeless, nameless, eternal, GOD whatever you want to call it) is not within the limits of mind. The mind has ideologies, gossip, theories, attachments, fears, desires, argument, prejudices, success, failure, insult, flattery, charity, failure, hatred, analysis, propaganda, entertainment, self pity, conflicts and many more with which it wants to fill itself. Human being has a sense of feeling that there is something beyond this enormously complex activity of mind. This dark cloud of thought's activity has it's own strength, and cunning intelligence. The utter lack of sensitivity, out of self ignorance produces all kinds of disorder. When this dark cloud is so real to me, the problem for the real teacher is to say that is just illusory cloud. The teacher says silence, stillness may affect that darkness, not your effort and struggle so try to be still. I am so reluctant to be still, and in return I say are you mad? you can't see which is in front of my eyes are you a teacher at all?

As this cloud is real to me, the activity of solving is my life. I try to solve it by dominating, killing other people, helping others, practicing spirituality, acquiring knowledge, money, indulging in pleasure, worshipping other people, running to monasteries, by getting attached, drugs, sharing good things to others. After tremendous effort of doing all these things, the mind got used and accustomed to work in this way. It is programmed, conditioned to solve. Even the social respect is based on one's acquisition, not based on how peacefully one is living. When everything proves to be futile, one goes back to the master, as the master is clear he repeats the same. His point is illusion can not be put aside by effort, you need to observe more closely and realize it as just illusion.

One's mind is programmed to effort and struggle. So when the master says simply observe your own mind, in the beginning one tastes the beauty of simple observation with an unburdened mind. One starts with simple observation, but soon all the effort comes back unconsciously. When one is ignorant of the word "simple" in "simple observation" that observation, awareness might become another burden to mind. After all the circus, if one is lucky he or she realizes the limitation of the mind to find something beyond itself. The challenge is after knowing the dangers of usage of mind, still one needs to use it for livelihood or to do certain functions outwardly in day to day life.

Movement of thought is problem

Our mind being the movement of thought, acts as a blurred screen. Through this screen we occasionally find clarity and soon it disappears. Somehow we are conditioned to put effort to find clarity through this screen only. We are heavily conditioned not to clear the screen and to try for a clear view or perception. Here we may refer to words of K, known and unknown. This distracted view, lack of clarity is what we know and we think it is secure. K's challenge to us might be can we clear the screen at an instance and have a clear perception. Can you put away your mind, this putting away and going beyond its likes and dislikes is real honesty as said by NISARGA. Then there is this benediction of clear perception which is action itself. This action is full of vitality, energy and free of conflict. 

Holding is sorrow

Holding onto things like family, friends, job, property, ideas, images, opinions is sorrow. When they follow you, it is bliss and happiness. May be watching them as an outsider, and out of that observation having a relationship with them is the key to happiness. Not only things but to watch yourself by you as an outsider is very important.

Transformation

What is transformation, psychologically? Thought always pushing us to become, to achieve, to find a secure place. From this constant effort confusion takes birth, and out of this confusion you act, or you don't act. Our education doesn't informed you that when you act out of confusion, that action produces further confusion. We act more fanatically, to clear confusion but the result will be exactly opposite. To clear this dark cloud of confusion, you must show courage to stay with it. It is very interesting to observe in yourself, that when you are in confusion you try everything else except staying with that confusion. Staying with it means neither you accepted it nor you are desiring the ending of confusion rather you are witnessing that very confusion with attention. Only in this silent witnessing you can go beyond the word confusion, and see what it really is.

It is interesting to observe, transformation begins when you slow down inwardly. Transformation is not something mystical, rather rational observation of what is happening inside, and ending of psychological aspects like fear, desire, loneliness, jealousy, greed, dependency..etc. Difficulty is that you need to observe without any desire to end something. That observation without judgement ends the thing, not your effort to end it. Another interesting thing is when you know, how you are going to transform, it is no more transformation. When you transform it's completely new state of being for you as well. So you can not recognize it, you might feel freshness which comes with that newness. when you transform you are a new being, mind entering into new and unknown state is transformation. It can only happen when there is freedom from the past.

The cunning nature of thought

He lost something, and he is happy without any limits a sense of pure joy pervading his mind. Important thing is there is no effort inside to keep that "state of joyfulness" permanent. The mind has no desire to live in that state for the rest of life. Only thing he can see is, he lost something NOT accumulated. He don’t want to analyze it further, he don’t want to keep it. That tranquility, that sense of pure joy is always there on the corner. The obstacles between you and that pure joy is your desire to grab it, formulate it so that you can come to it whenever you want, your desire to control it, your effort to possess it these are real obstacles. You have enjoyed possessing material things, now you want to apply same here as well. This constant effort and struggle to live in that blissful state permanently, makes life miserable.

Are you not the problem?

When it comes to spirituality, what is the problem that you want to resolve? If we don’t make it complex it is you and I who are at the center of the problem, or we are the problem itself. That is the reason the job of a real guru is really tough one. The real one, is not interested in comforting words, sweet explanations, not interested in your worship, your money, your power. Their primary concern is to act like a mirror, in which we can see our own ignorance, jealousy, fears, endless desires, lack of love and compassion. Love and compassion are the essence of intelligence.

The art of LET IT GO(LIG)

Expectation of compulsory result burdens the mind. 'LIG' is like a relaxation point while you are taking the journey called life. The movement or journey of life, and relaxation both are equally important. Most of us don't have balance between these two. That might be the root cause of all our sorrow. Unfortunately we are either inclined towards working hard or being lazy. 'LIG' is like servicing and refueling a vehicle. 'LIG' is not a formula, rather, we need to understand the meaning in depth behind that phrase. We generally use 'LIG', to escape from facing the facts.

The lawyer inside us

There is a lawyer inside our mind, who always judges and
defends whatever we think of as the truth. If this lawyer is
interested in truth, we can create an entirely different society,
but unfortunately he is not. A mind which is incapable of
seeing the difference between an illusion and a truth, can
only bring disorder in its action. An illusion is nothing but
accepting a non-fact as the truth and vice versa. Don’t think
that this lawyer has only been destroying society, he has been
destroying our own life too, because we are missing out on
the strength and energy that we get when we perceive truth.

Be a light to yourself

One of the biggest stumbling block in life, is the deceiving nature of our own mind. If mind takes certain pleasure by getting attached to a book, worshipping another human being it creates an illusion that you are progressing. Whereas in reality you might be where you are, without moving a step further. Don't take knowledge from another about life, it is something you need to discover on your own. The guru's, sacred books, religions they are just pointers use them wisely. If you get attached to those pointers, those pointers might be people, gurus, eloquent motivational speakers, leaders trust me you are in big trouble.

Order might be dearest thing to GOD

Human beings have invented machines like car, computer, aeroplane and so much more. They all function in a defined way and fulfil the needs of man. In the same way, life manifested itself in so many forms on this beautiful earth, and one among them is the human being. The machines created by man are to fulfil his own needs and for his comfort, but the manifestation of life which involves you and I, has been done with great care, affection, love and without any self-interest.

Expectations and Relationships

Sooner or later, our relationships turn into pain and suffering.
When one neglects the other, we get wounded psychologically
and we carry on with that hurt. There are innumerable things
that hurt us like this, but we never learn something out of it,
instead deciding on keeping ourselves away from getting hurt
for the rest of our life. When someone hurts me, if I tell myself
that I must be careful next time, and something like this
should not repeat itself, etc., then I am slowly isolating myself
from the society, by building walls around me and thinking that
this isolation will protect me. This isolation brings
with it, its own loneliness and pain. Thinking is a very complex
affair; when I can’t understand my thinking, how can I
guide others?

Depression

Dear Friend,

If you are depressed please don't go for sweet pills of comforting words. Would like to suggest you for bitter pills of self-awareness. Comforting words may put away your burdens for time being, but soon they will be back with greater force. When there is movement in life, is there a place for depression? When life moving according to your wishes, you don't feel depressed. Some how your life became stagnated, and out of that stagnation depression gains strength. Are you serious about getting out of stagnation, or your thought taking certain pleasure in being in that state of suffering?

Social status is an illusion

The person who accumulates knowledge for recognition in society, is not so different from a person who is longing for money, power..etc. When you are passionately learning something, you enjoy the very process of learning. You don't desire to be recognized, you may get recognition but you are aware about the danger of getting caught in it. The desire to get recognized makes life miserable. Social status is an illusion, it is just another product of thought. Like many other products of thought, social status is also unreal. The real beauty lies in being simple and humble.

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Verbalization vs silence

Verbalization is the major cause of decay of our brains. In explaining through words we can go to any extent, what really matters is do you behave? We are habituated to analysis, but the more we analyze the less we understand. We say silence is profound, yet we live with a chattering mind. Surely it is profound because only in silence one can see oneself as he is or she is. A chattering mind gives importance to what it should be, a silent mind observe what it is in the present. What you are in the present is real, what you should be is just an image created by thought. Please put away the burden of becoming somebody, and start understanding what you are in the present. The burden of becoming, invites struggle and sorrow in life. Don't try to apply, first examine it and make it your own.

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self improvement or negation

We often listen to words like 'be positive, be confident, believe in yourself, you can do it, self improvement'. We rarely, or never listen to teachings which are based on self negation(Please click on JK Teachings on sidebar). Here I would like to explain the difference with simple example, but go beyond the example and feel truth for yourself.

Suppose you have a floor which is full of oil, slippery. The first category of teachings makes us to, work hard so that you can walk fast even on the slippery ground. Even though these teachings are more popular, it negates joy and happiness in life. They pushes you to work hard, knowingly or unknowingly we use another human being just as a stepping stone for our success. Here there is no place for love and compassion, what matters is only success and getting a result. When end result  is only important, we miss the joy of learning.

Have we tried all?

We tried all possible ways to bring about a good society. The world witnessed dictatorship, religious propaganda, charity, social reforms, environmentalists, scientists, philosophers, journalism, spirituality, economists trying for equality, democracy, communism, non violence, we even tried wars for peace the list goes on and on. Finally we came to a conclusion that nothing can be done, suffering is part of life we can't end it. We finally satisfied with theories, philosophies which says disorder is part of life.

What we have not tried with committed effort, is common man's wisdom through holistic education. The root of all disorder in the world is self-centered activity of human mind. Only wisdom can break this pattern of longing for security, and make you listen to your heart. Most unfortunate thing that can happen to any country is, education becoming business commodity.

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Don't worship sign boards

Gurus, sacred books, religions, leaders they are no more important than a sign board. Unfortunately we garland sign boards, worship, adore them instead of taking journey further. Real teacher acts just like a mirror, it is our job to use it and diligently correct ourselves.

Rules or Understanding

One should live based on rules or one's own understanding about life? Moment to moment observation and learning can only handle the dynamics of life. Rules formed out of knowledge can only breed conflict. One must live in a state of experiencing, not based on past knowledge, memories or experiences.  Conflict is one of the major reason which makes the mind dull.