Move close to your psychological problems

Dear Friends,

You are suffocating yourself, with never ending desire to change what is happening in the present or with your faulty desire to become somebody(to be free, peaceful, intelligent, rich, popular, famous, powerful). I think we can do this, stop becoming somebody(correcting the present) psychologically and observe. If there is happiness you can go for this way of living, otherwise you can always fall back to your everlasting struggle and effort to become somebody. So can you end your desire to become somebody without any anxiety for what happens next? 

You see even in the absence of not becoming anything, there is hard work, and organic growth in day to day life. That hard work is out of passion. Happiness is NOT end result, rather you work hard being happy in the present. Common good, inclusive growth are part of that hard work. Hope you haven't missed the point that there is no sacrifice here, only sharing and being joyful together.

What helps in understanding something, moving close to it or escape from it? If you say moving close, are you doing that? Be alone, and move close to your mind observe how thought is creating immense disorder, suffering inside the skull, as well as in the outer world. How it divides, isolates you from the rest of the world through it's never ending movement. Is moving close possible, if there is judgement as good and bad thought? Is moving close possible if you don't love thought? I wish abundant energy for all of us to move close, until the mind as unnecessary thought process dies in us.

The enemy(The chattering of the mind) is within

The whole purpose of education

Best book on education:  Education-and-the-Significance-of-life
List of schools by K     :  https://jkrishnamurti.org/schools

The whole purpose of education, or the function of a teacher or parent is to show a child the dangers involved in psychological dependency. In the tender age, we may instruct them. I think we must be serious, if we really love our children. What I mean by seriousness, is constantly we must learn together along with the child. Suppose we are trying to teach a child about good and bad behavior, first we must observe our own life and see can we change in few things where change is required. In that way we will be clear about what really involves, to bring change in oneself. For example, the man who wants recognition for his change, is not really changed. You saw something wrong, which is damaging your life and you changed, so the change must be for it's own sake, not to impress others.

The words of a man who is leading a orderly life are much more affective, than a person who merely talks for his own pleasure. So before teaching your child about inward strength and happiness, can you lead such a life. The psychological dependency, when life throws problems at us is real cause of sorrow. If you love your child, try to understand how to face problems of life without any outward dependency. There is great beauty, when you don't depend psychologically. You may depend on a carpenter that is different, we are talking about psychological dependency. In some situations you may ask for help from your friend that is not dependency, but if you are suffering or feeling happy based on your friend's denial or acceptance then it is dependency.

In our day to day life, we are struck in psychological dependency. We depend on gurus, leaders, analysts, whom we think wise, sacred books, ideologies, astrology, rituals, theories to tell us what is correct and what is wrong in life. If we go little deeper, our own conclusions, opinions, beliefs, knowledge about life is also a bondage. This dependency on outside authority to understand our own life which is in our hands, is the most miserable thing. This dependency is the root of all corruption. You are not dependent, doesn't mean that you are arrogant, rather you are just a light to yourself. Only a man who is free from the crutches of dependency, can really love another human being.

Moment to moment learning out of sensitive observation is required, to not to depend on outside authority. In this kind of learning, there is no accumulation of knowledge about life. The accumulation in the form of opinions,  beliefs, tradition is what constructs ego. Ego invites suffering into life.

Instead of telling your child what is correct or what to think, the negative approach works perfectly. For example earlier we have seen, changing ourselves to impress others is not a change. So by negating what is not correct, we come to the positive. Where as if we start positive(by making rules), we may end up negative. To find out what is love, the only approach is to see what it is not. In this negative approach, you stumble upon something unknown. If you have an idea of what is love, and you try to inquire, it is no more inquiry at all.

Slowly the child must crack the different complexities of life like fear, loneliness, running after pleasure, depression, relationship, love, time, death and come out of them victoriously. Once this ground is set, the child can approach education or any other issue in life with a sense of freedom. Only in freedom the child can make relationship with people or subjects that they have to pass. Once this relationship out of love established, struggle and effort are not required.

Best book on education:  Education-and-the-Significance-of-life by Jiddu Krishnamurti
List of schools by K     :  https://jkrishnamurti.org/schools

Beyond thought

It(Truth, timeless, nameless, eternal, GOD whatever you want to call it) is not within the limits of mind. The mind has ideologies, gossip, theories, attachments, fears, desires, argument, prejudices, success, failure, insult, flattery, charity, failure, hatred, analysis, propaganda, entertainment, self pity, conflicts and many more with which it wants to fill itself. Human being has a sense of feeling that there is something beyond this enormously complex activity of mind. This dark cloud of thought's activity has it's own strength, and cunning intelligence. The utter lack of sensitivity, out of self ignorance produces all kinds of disorder. When this dark cloud is so real to me, the problem for the real teacher is to say that is just illusory cloud. The teacher says silence, stillness may affect that darkness, not your effort and struggle so try to be still. I am so reluctant to be still, and in return I say are you mad? you can't see which is in front of my eyes are you a teacher at all?

As this cloud is real to me, the activity of solving is my life. I try to solve it by dominating, killing other people, helping others, practicing spirituality, acquiring knowledge, money, indulging in pleasure, worshipping other people, running to monasteries, by getting attached, drugs, sharing good things to others. After tremendous effort of doing all these things, the mind got used and accustomed to work in this way. It is programmed, conditioned to solve. Even the social respect is based on one's acquisition, not based on how peacefully one is living. When everything proves to be futile, one goes back to the master, as the master is clear he repeats the same. His point is illusion can not be put aside by effort, you need to observe more closely and realize it as just illusion.

One's mind is programmed to effort and struggle. So when the master says simply observe your own mind, in the beginning one tastes the beauty of simple observation with an unburdened mind. One starts with simple observation, but soon all the effort comes back unconsciously. When one is ignorant of the word "simple" in "simple observation" that observation, awareness might become another burden to mind. After all the circus, if one is lucky he or she realizes the limitation of the mind to find something beyond itself. The challenge is after knowing the dangers of usage of mind, still one needs to use it for livelihood or to do certain functions outwardly in day to day life.

Movement of thought is problem

Our mind being the movement of thought, acts as a blurred screen. Through this screen we occasionally find clarity and soon it disappears. Somehow we are conditioned to put effort to find clarity through this screen only. We are heavily conditioned not to clear the screen and to try for a clear view or perception. Here we may refer to words of K, known and unknown. This distracted view, lack of clarity is what we know and we think it is secure. K's challenge to us might be can we clear the screen at an instance and have a clear perception. Can you put away your mind, this putting away and going beyond its likes and dislikes is real honesty as said by NISARGA. Then there is this benediction of clear perception which is action itself. This action is full of vitality, energy and free of conflict. 

Holding is sorrow

Holding onto things like family, friends, job, property, ideas, images, opinions is sorrow. When they follow you, it is bliss and happiness. May be watching them as an outsider, and out of that observation having a relationship with them is the key to happiness. Not only things but to watch yourself by you as an outsider is very important.

The cunning nature of thought

He lost something, and he is happy without any limits a sense of pure joy pervading his mind. Important thing is there is no effort inside to keep that "state of joyfulness" permanent. The mind has no desire to live in that state for the rest of life. Only thing he can see is, he lost something NOT accumulated. He don’t want to analyze it further, he don’t want to keep it. That tranquility, that sense of pure joy is always there on the corner. The obstacles between you and that pure joy is your desire to grab it, formulate it so that you can come to it whenever you want, your desire to control it, your effort to possess it these are real obstacles. You have enjoyed possessing material things, now you want to apply same here as well. This constant effort and struggle to live in that blissful state permanently, makes life miserable.

It's just request, you are not going for war

He entered into the bus, the seats were divided into two columns. There were four seats in a row, and a gap in the middle of each pair of seats. After going forward inside the bus, there was a window seat vacant but the seat next to it was full. Just behind that, the window seat was occupied and the other one is empty. He took that seat, and settled down and bus moved ahead. After some time, he felt uncomfortable as there is direct A/C wind coming onto his face. He wants to move and sit in the front window seat which is empty. He wants to move, but in the back of his mind thought is preventing him to take action. Don't just give all importance to example, it is just to make your understanding easy the scenarios are innumerable.

Why she said negative?

She was listening to a folk song about life. The essence of the song was to say, nothing is permanent in life so live like a guest on this planet. The message has truth in it, she said listen to this song how good it is. He asked her a question, what is the use of listening to this? She said we must listen whenever someone tells something good. He said what is the use, right after completion of that song if we are back in our daily routine? When we don’t give serious thought about it, what is the use of listening? Is it listening at all? She said you are always negative, that is the reason no one likes your books. Of course she told him humorously. He has given serious thought about it, these are his findings.